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26 May 2009 @ 01:00 am
Over the past two years, I have struggled so much with creating a quality website that I could be happy with. I have changed it four times now and hopefully, this one will be the final one for a few more years!

I have so much admiration for people that do web designs well. It is definitely an art that I have not mastered nor have any desire to start at this point in my online career.

Creating code and graphics for websites is an area that take many hours of practice and application to make it affective and work well. I prefer to do the optimization and promotion side of the business rather than the designs.

I also write dating and relationship blogs and need help creating a high quality and interesting design. For that, I normally consult a professional for web designs. There are many available and if you search the web, you will find them in abundance.  Contact 4 or 5 to view a sample of their work and pricing.

There are some companies that provide you with web tutorials for designing your own backgrounds and images. Many are relatively easy for you to do yourself.

21 April 2009 @ 11:27 pm
Women think that men are so confusing and have such a difficult time trying to uncover the mysteries of dating and how men think and why. Well, men have the same issues with women.

The truth is that human nature is complex and all we can do is to try to find someone who best compliments us and whom we feel comfortable with. Just when you think you have found it , sometimes everything goes awry.

Women are actually for the most part fairly simple. We want to feel attractive, needed and want lots of attention. If you can accomplish giving us these 3 things, we will probably love you for life.

When you first meet someone, there is either an instant chemistry or basically nothing evolves. Chemistry and attraction are what jump start a relationship. Whether you meet someone through an online dating site or from your immediate circle of friends and own area, dating can be made quite simple.

The first thing that is important to note is that the first few months are the most crucial. Either you make the cut or you don't. Simple, right? This is the introductory phase when you learn more about your partner. Most relationships never pass through the break-in period. Scary to think about if you are entering what you think might possibly have potential!

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Most women like to be called everyday even at the beginning. If we don't get the attention, we normally keep looking. Shower us with just the right balance of attention and we are yours forever!

Compliments when dating are a must. Don't go overboard, but let us know when we smell great.  Gently brush our neck with your nose and say something sweet. Seems simple to us at least!

Also, don't criticize a woman's cooking. This is taboo!!  Almost all women think they are good cooks and don't like to receive negative comments regarding their lack of culinary skills.

During the first few months of dating, be yourself but at the same time don't bring out a lot of negatives. Keep dating light and fun. Since you are both getting to know about each other and decide if you want to move to the next level, the relationship is usually very fragile. Dating should be fun, satisfying and prepare your for the next step. We are not all looking for the same things, but hopefully we are on the same page! Hope a bit of the dating advice helps!

18 February 2009 @ 12:08 am
Free Online Dating Services are becoming increasingly popular. With the current economy, singles do not have the disposable income to waste on meeting people.

There is no longer any reason to pay for finding a date or relationship. Eharmony charges $60 for a one month subscription! That is ridiculous.

Allsinglesmeet.com is one of the newest free dating sites to hit the web. They are unique in that they offer many amenities that other free dating services do not.

Instant messaging is one of the main ways people connect online today. Allsinglesmeet.com has a very easy to use system unlike some of the other dating sites.

Getting to know other singles today is much easier, less expensive and hassle free!
04 November 2008 @ 01:34 pm
There are many techniques to making an internet site successful. The key is finding the right ingredients to get you there. Some of the ways that internet sites become popular are viral, organic, branding, paid advertising and promotions.

Viral simply means that everyone is talking about a site. That people simply "know" a site like Hotmail.com, Microsoft.com, Mypspace.com etc. This is the best option since a site can basically go on autopilot. This happens when a site has all the right elements and gives the user what they want. Creating great content and a user friendly experience will go a long way to getting a site to this point.

Getting a top spot on Google with organic traffic is not necessarily easy either. If you have a site that is not competing against a lot of indexed pages, there is a better shot at getting ranked high on Google. This is achieved through great link building and relative content within your site. Some types of niches such as a free dating service and gambling are much more difficult to get high rankings with.

Branding is very complex but extremely important. Look at Tom from Myspace. People see him as part of his site so personal branding can be important. It can give the user the feeling that the site is real and legitimate. Branding of sites such as Apple have been extremely successful.

Paid advertising is expensive and if you are in a very competitive field, you may want to reconsider unless you have an investor or a steady supply of cash. You can try google adwords and 7search as a few examples of pay per click advertising that are very popular. 

One of the most popular ways and less expensive to get free advertisement and promote your site is through a promotion. Handbag.com did one recently giving away free handbags and has become very successful as a result. Spending 50- 200 for a promotion is just a tenth of what it can cost you monthly for advertising.

Some of the best ways to do a promotion is to first build a network of friends such as through Myspace and Twitter. Then, by creating a well thought out bulletin without a spammy feel, you can create interest and draw people to your site.
Allsinglesmeet.com  is testing this concept giving away a free IPOD NANO 8GB that runs from November 4 2008 thru December 4 2008. They feel that it is an exciting and effective way to draw new members to their free dating site and pump up their current members into participating.

28 August 2008 @ 12:20 am
I am probably typical of most online dating members. I always thought that paying by paying for a dating membership that you would get a better quality online dating site. That is simply not the case. There are several great free online dating sites and I know realize that there is no need to throw away money to meet someone.

Meeting people has never been easier. Years ago, you had to wait to be lucky enough to meet someone that you clicked with. Usually, it was from a bar, work or from being introduced to someone. Now with the internet, we have so many options. Meeting someone online has been for me the easiest way to meet people. Free online dating sites allow you to instant message, web chat and email people from the security and anonymity of your own home. You are the one that decides when and if you are ready to meet the person you are communicating with.

Even if you are a bit shy, you have the opportunity to get to know someone at your own pace without plunging into a meeting before you are ready. It also helps you to build confidence when you see that there are people out there that really are interested in you. There is someone for everyone and there are certainly all types of people on free online dating sites.

What you have to do is to take the plunge and give it a try. You can start without posting a photo at the beginning if you feel uncomfortable. Just be prepared to get less results without one. You are in control. Free online dating will give you more options since you can also post on multiple sites without any cost involved.


28 August 2008 @ 12:17 am

I have posted many tips for online dating services over the past several months. One of the biggest mistakes people make when participating on the online dating sites is to not post a photo. This is a must if you really want to be successful!

People are leary of profiles without photos. You wonder is this person real? What are they trying to hide..... Are they married??? Online dating sites give people so many choices, so if you don't have a picture posted, there are thousands of people that do!

I recommend that you post several: one body shot and one face shot are advisable. I do not advice glamour shot photos for ladies. Men tend to be hesitant when viewing them.

The best advice that I can give you to be successful on free online dating sites is to be honest, post a positive profile with at least 2 photos!

28 August 2008 @ 12:13 am

A lot of people ask me what I think about long distance relationships with people that we meet on a free online dating service. I always say that although it would be preferable to find someone within 30-45 minute driving distance, sometimes this is not possible.

Long distance relationships can be very successful depending on the circumstances and the people that are involved. If both parties are willing to make sacrifices and don’t see it as too challenging, they can often work through the geographics and really find true love.

Free online dating sites offer such a wide range of people from all over the world. Since it is not always possible to find that special someone in your own backyard., have an open mind when someone contacts you from afar!

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25 August 2008 @ 01:23 am
Although free dating services have become very popular within the last few years, the naysayers will still tell you that online relationships aren't worth your time. "Only losers do online dating," they say. "Those internet romance things never work out." "Everyone lies on the internet." "Online dating is dangerous."

Does any of that sound familiar? Well, we're about to debunk these myths on dating.

The idea that only social misfits look for love online is decidedly false. Everyone from your boss, the guy behind the cash register, and probably your own mother uses a free dating service these days. We think nothing of going online to write an email, order a book, or do research. And now people are finding their soul mates online, either by accident or by using a free online dating service.

The assumption that online relationships never work out is also false. In fact, many of them thrive! A 2005 study publicized by Science Daily showed that online relationships enjoy a success rate that's comparable to that of more "traditional" relationships.

Not all online romance stories end happily, of course, but that isn't because the relationships began online. Many relationships that begin in a more conventional way will fail, and you can be sure it won't be because these couples happened to meet each other in a coffee shop or at the beach.

Do some people lie when they're using free dating sites? Yes, unfortunately some of them do. Does that mean everyone lies? No! Most people who are serious about having a long-term relationship aren't going to sabotage their efforts by making things up. The worst they might do is post a picture that's been slightly touched up or was taken a few years back. While misleading, it's not much different from a woman putting on more makeup than usual for her first date.

Being a successful liar in an online relationship is actually harder than you might think. Lying requires both a good memory and consistency, regardless of whether you're doing it online or straight to someone's face. That's why it's a good idea to take the relationship slow at first.
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Handling conflict is one of the last things that people think about when signing up for a free online dating service. However, conflict is inevitable in any relationship, and it's unpleasant whether it happens face-to-face or through an exchange of emails.The difference is that handling conflict in an online dating relationship is a little trickier. It doesn't take much for a minor disagreement to explode into a situation that leaves everyone feeling emotionally battered.

If you receive an email  from your online friend that leaves you feeling hurt or angry, it's best to wait 24 hours before responding. If you fire back immediately, you might just say something that you regret.

One of the disadvantages of relationships formed through free online dating is that you don't have the visual or auditory clues that would give some context to the words you are reading on the screen. That's why it is a good idea to re-read the email hours later.  You may find that your perspective has changed and the email doesn't sound so bad after all.

One of the things that they don't tell you in free online dating 101 is that if the two of you start having a heated argument while chatting online, it is probably best to log off for awhile. You can let your partner know that you are sorry but you can't think clearly right now and need time to sort through your thoughts.

If your online relationship has progressed to the point where you now talk on the phone, it's best to take your arguments there. Hearing each other's voices helps you get closer in ways that can't always be achieved through writing. A gentle or reassuring tone can do a lot to soften your feelings towards each other. Also, the immediacy of a phone conversation means that the fight is less likely to be dragged out over a long period.

When you respond by phone or email, chose your words carefully. If you write an email, read it aloud in different ways: Gently, harshly, firmly, etc. This will give you an overall feel for the phrasing and overall tone you want to convey in your email.

Ask for clarification, You may want to tell your new free online dating friend how you interpreted what her or she said and ask what was meant. For example,"When you said X did you really mean Y? Because that's how I first read it and it made me feel hurt/upset, etc."

Be honest about how you feel, but try not to be too dramatic. Telling them that their words hurt you like a "slap in the face"  is a way of saying that you were attacked. That will put your online buddy on the defensive.

Handling conflict with someone that you meet on a free online dating service can be difficult, but  it's not impossible. As long as you avoid jumping to conclusions, seek clarification. and choose your words carefully, you can navigate the seas and reach a peaceful resolution.
17 August 2008 @ 10:12 pm
We all want to find our soul mate. Have you ever thought about the fact that sometimes we try too hard on a free dating service? We are always chasing something online instead of relaxing and just letting it happen. On the other hand, sometimes whatever you do it still doesn't work out.

Relationships are extremely complex and very seldom do people really connect in a way that is totally satisfying. It seems as though if we are attracted to the person physically and enjoy their company it is not reciprocated. Why is this?

When we show our cards too early on people lose interest. This goes for men and women. There has to be a balance. The delimna is when to open yourself up to your mate. Many times you wait for months and then still face rejection when you reveal your feelings.

Free online dating is always a gamble and juggling act. The best thing to guard against a broken heart is to reserve your emotions and date more than one person until you are sure of your match's intentions. By seeing more than one person you don't revolve your life around one person and it makes you less prone to clinginess and disappointment. When you are busy and not always available you become more desirable.

Always remember that you are special and have a lot to give someone. If the person you are interested in does not appreciate it, there are plenty of people that will.

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